Is it True that Humans Come in Four Colors?

'10 Tips - It's all about Focus!'

2010-07-20T12:32:00.001-04:00

2010-07-02T14:04:00.001-04:00

If Not Now When – the power of 30 minutes…

2010-05-25T08:34:00.000-04:00

What dream are you putting off because you simply don’t have the time? What one thing do you think you could do for 30m each day that would push you toward doing what you really want to do from what you have to do or what others think you should do? If there is a common theme I hear from clients and friends it’s this… “I would if I could, but I have to this first so I can make money.” Don’t get me wrong I am not any different, we all need to put food on the table, so we adopt roles or work that may not be our life’s dream – but does that mean you have to give up on it? NO!

I also hear people talk about how if only they could manage their time more effectively, they would get more done. Hmm – can you really ‘manage’ time? Time is finite – it’s what you are doing with your time and energy that makes the difference. I checked my bookshelf before writing this and found at least six books or courses I have taken on time management – you would have thought it had sunk in by now! However, it’s not about that – it’s about realizing that we create our own emotional blocks that prevent us from showing our bright, best selves.

So, how do we shift the perspective on this? What’s going on really when we say we need to manage our time and priorities better, what stories are we telling ourselves?

What do YOU not have time to do?

- Exercise more

- Eat more healthily

- Write a book

- Spend time with your children

- Spend time with your significant other

- Take a walk

- Talk to a friend

- Call an Old Friend

- Call a client

Ask yourself this question… What is really preventing me from moving forward on my goal or intention? Can I find 30m each day to start writing the book I have inside me? How much do I really want to do this? What gift am I ignoring and keeping from the world if I don’t share it? What would my life look like if I made the commitment to spend 30m a day on my life dream?

Then, ask yourself… What emotions are holding me from moving forward on my goal? What comes up for me when I think about living that dream?

- Fear of failure or worse fear of success?

- Comparing myself with others – am I really good enough?

- Afraid of asking for help…

- Getting sidetracked by ‘Mass Weapons of Distraction’

- Do I have the right skills – am I good enough?

I am sure you will add others- when we finally decide that yes, I am ready to share my gifts with the world, the reason for blocking yourself will become evident to you and will seem easy to remove. You will see that the block was so simple.

- You are good enough – you are one of a kind

- People will help – they want you to be a success

- You do have the skills – they are natural and innate

- You will find the focus and the passion

Every one of us has tasks and duties we need to perform each day. Some imposed by ourselves, some imposed by others. Are you allowing other people or yourself to fill up your agenda with unnecessary activities? Is your busyness adding to your bank account? Denying your gift to the world is unfair not just to you, but to everyone who will miss it.

Do you have 30m a day to follow your dream?

A Fish Can't Whistle and Neither can I

2010-03-28T13:38:00.001-04:00

Sometimes things in your life show up at just the right time. I have been looking a book recommended by a friend, It took me a month to track down a copy – seems it is the most stolen title in the Chapter’s Stores – they can’t keep it on the shelves – strange. My friend said I should read it because it had references to Personality Type. I am always looking for patterns that support or confirm the theory of type – and frankly everywhere I go I see relationships and patterns – and try to see how they fit. I was so engrossed in the ‘doing’ of looking for the patterns in this little book of wisdom that I almost missed the key message. Sometimes things don’t fit – they just are. Of course a fish can’t whistle – it is not in its nature – I can’t whistle either, although I could learn – I choose not to because I choose just to be me. If my environment made it necessary for me to whistle – I would spend a lot of time not being me – and doing something I don’t like to do – just like being in the wrong job or marriage. Most of us spend a lot of time trying to learn to whistle.

The name of the book is ‘the Tao if Pooh’, by Benjamin Hoff. Tao means the way, a way of being and doing, as I read this little gem of a book - of course I saw patterns and connections to the coaching work I do, and to Personality Type – there I was busily trying to fit the characters into one of the four temperaments – making notes in the margins, diagrams at the back of the book – then realized I was missing the point. Yes, there are references or similarities to Personality Type, but that was not the main point. There are many messages in the book, however the main message or theme is ‘just be’ – let things flow – don’t be attached to the outcome. Wow! Sounds like coaching... Go with the flow! This can seem somewhat irresponsible to those who like to have a plan, set goals and work hard, but Hoff explains to Pooh that in fact because we are so busy ‘doing’ – we are not always open to the possibilities that the universe is creating for us, we can’t see the forest for the trees – and that was what was happening to me – enter this little book.

In my work, I encourage clients to get in touch with their authentic self – the being that came into the world hard wired to live a life of purpose. We are all so shaped by our culture, experience and environment – most of us have no idea who or what we really are. Hoff explains P’u, the concept of the uncarved block. “The essence of the principle of the Uncarved Block is that things in their original simplicity contain their own natural power, power that is easily spoiled and lost when that simplicity is changed.

This phenomenon happens to all of us – imagine if we could just take back that power that exists within the uncarved block. What gifts could we bring to the world if we just allowed to ‘be’? Who was I being? Trying to mirror the success of others and following their pattern and their ‘reality’. I was so caught up in - ‘you should be doing or being this’ – that I almost missed the messages the ‘universe’ was sending me. I was not walking my talk, I was trying to be someone else, or something else. The work is not over - I continue to evolve.

“In order to take control of our lives and accomplish something of lasting value, sooner or later we need to learn to Believe. We don’t need to shift our responsibilities onto the shoulders of some deified Spiritual Superman, or sit around and wait for Fate to come knocking on the door. We simply need to believe in the power that’s within us, and use it. When we do that, and stop imitating others and competing against them, things begin to work out for us.”

And So... I am now committed to doing nothing –the wisdom of Tao encourages openness and embracing ‘nothing’, just ‘being’ and not so busy ‘doing’. So what is Nothing according to Pooh?

“It means just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.” In other words just being you. Embrace the uncarved block that arrived in the world with a gift to give – it is OK to be where you are, what you are doing – just be open to the possibilities.

A Poem by Pooh...

“ How can you get very far,

If you don’t know Who You Are?

How can you do what you ought,

If you don’t know What You’ve Got?

And if you don’t know Which To Do

Of all the things in front of you,

Then what you’ll have when you are through

Is just a mess without a clue

Of all the best that can come true

If you know What and Which and Who.”

Why Your Brain is like The Wizard of Oz.

2010-03-28T13:31:00.001-04:00

What’s behind the green curtain? There is good reason that this children’s story has lasted the test of time. The story of the Wizard of OZ – is an allegory of life, a journey. It is also an allegory of reality and illusion.

The four characters in this classic tale set out on their quest to find what’s important to them. For Dorothy, home, for the Scarecrow, brains, for the Tin Woodman a heart and for the Cowardly Lion courage. Unwittingly it seems, the author L. Frank Baum has struck upon what the core needs are for each of the four personality types.

Dorothy (Gold) wishes nothing but the sense of belonging that being home gives her. “No matter how dreary and gray our homes are, we people of flesh and blood would rather live there than in any other country, be it ever so beautiful. There is no place like home.” Dorothy acts as the ‘accidental leader’ and caregiver for the group. For the Scarecrow (Green), with no brains, feared only a lighted match, yet he yearned to have knowledge. Many times, the scarecrow ‘thinks’ of ways he can help the team to get to the Emerald City. The Tin Woodman (Blue) longed for a heart and to love again. The Tin Woodman cries so hard when he steps on a beetle and crushes it, he rusts up all over again. The Cowardly Lion (Orange) wants to find courage, and longs for the freedom of the forest. He helps his friends by taking charge and getting them out of several scrapes along the journey on the Road of Yellow Brick.

Upon arrival at the Emerald City, the four are disappointed to learn that they must earn what they are asking of the Wizard, they must embark on another journey, where their resolve is tested again. When the quartet arrives back at the Emerald City after killing the Wicked Witch of the West, they ask the Wizard to grant them the wishes he has promised. They quickly discover that the Wizard is a ‘humbug’ – an ordinary man with no powers to grant their wishes. What he does help them to discover is that all along they had inside themselves the very things they wanted the most in life. “Who the real Oz is, when he is in his own form, no living person can tell.”

The four characters are playing out what every one of us does in our own lives. We are born with a set of characteristics that drive our behaviour. Our upbringing and environment help shape us and make us the unique beings we are. Yet, beneath the surface, the core needs and desires we have - and our hard wired mental functions shape every decision and action we take.

Think of your brain as an iceberg – at the tip is our conscious mind – what constitutes our reality, under the surface, is the unconscious – what drives our behaviour. All thoughts happen in the blink of an eye – the brain takes in information- the unconscious decides what is real and gives the message to the conscious mind. The conscious mind believes it has made the decision, this becomes our reality. Our thoughts are filtered through the patterns and beliefs we hold, hard wired and learned throughout our lives. Our brain is like the Wizard of Oz – we see the illusion, we command the conscious brain to do the same things over and over again. This is why we ask ourselves the question – why does this always happen to me?

“Oz himself is the great Wizard... more powerful than all the rest of us together.” Once the green curtain is pulled aside, and we can see the machinations of the ‘Wizard’ – we discover that all that we thought we wanted, we already had, the answers are within. All we thought was real – just an illusion. The magic of the message in the Wizard of Oz is that we have the power to re-wire our brains; we have power over the unconscious. The Wizard shows the characters that they can believe whatever they want and it will become real. “Oz left to himself, smiled to think of his success in giving the Scarecrow and the Tin Woodman and the Lion exactly what they thought they wanted.”

The tale of course has a happy ending with all four characters finding what they sought. They each had to embark upon a journey, a journey of learning – they had to challenge the beliefs and thoughts they carried along with them. Once the illusion was stripped away, each was able to see clearly how to achieve what they truly desired.

Will you draw back the green curtain?

Will you challenge your long held beliefs?

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I know my Personality Type – Now What? Do Nothing!

2010-03-11T10:05:00.000-05:00

I hear this all the time – now that I know my Personality Style, Type, Colour – what do I do with that information? NOTHING! That’s right ... nothing. Before you learned this new tool, you reacted to people in all kinds of ways like, getting mad, getting furious, trying to change people – all of which caused you great stress. Why can’t they Be Like Me?! After you learn about personality type – you are freed up to no NOTHING – just observe, relax and forgive, because you know that it’s not about you – it’s just about the other person – how they communicate and behave. You now can be a curious student of human behaviour. Not reacting as you normally would also makes the other person curious – go on try it with your children!

Ok that’s a bit extreme – but I had to get your attention – you see it’s not always appropriate to do nothing. With this new understanding comes a power to change how human relationships are nurtured. You now have the ability to walk in someone else’s shoes – to ‘get’ what goes on inside their brain. So what are the practical applications of the tool? When building rapport as an example? Step back and listen to the other person on a deeper level, listen to the words being used – words are powerful symbols. Observe their body language, energy and make eye contact. People give out a lot of clues about how they are feeling and thinking. Each of the personality types gives out huge clues about ‘what makes them tick’.

Green personality types will generally ask a lot of questions and challenge ideas and concepts. Blue personality types will use a lot of empathic language, and may ask how you feel or how your family is. The Gold Personality Type will be concerned with getting things right – you will hear a lot of ‘shoulds’ in their language. The Orange Persoanlity Type will be direct and often impatient to get the conversation going. Of course, this is only a small indication of the bigger picture – all of our communication is made through personal filters such as upbringing, culture, gender, values and beliefs.

It’s not about what you say – although words are a strong indication of what is being communicated – it’s about how it is being said. 55% of what we say is conveyed by body language and gestures, 38% by the tone of the words we use (how we say it) – only 7% is conveyed verbally. If you step back and try to ‘hear’ what is being communicated through a different lens or filter – your communication will be much more successful – try it!

Irene Anderson is a certified MBTI, True Colors, Personality Dimensions facilitator and a Professional Success Coach.

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How finding Purpose is Practical... The Light Bulb Theory.

2010-03-02T07:16:00.000-05:00

I know, some of you are rolling your eyes. Another one of those coaches talking about purpose. You hear it everywhere – ‘you are on the planet for a reason’, ‘be your authentic self’ Yadda ... Yadda. Well, I happen to believe that it’s true, but for a different reason. Let’s look at it this way. You are a light bulb – Yep – correct a Light Bulb! All of your life people have been telling you that you are NOT a Light Bulb – you are a turnip! Now, how can a turnip possibly shed light on anyone? How can a turnip show any brightness or show someone the way ahead? Impossible right? A turnip has no practical purpose. But, deep down you know that you have a light that shines, you have seen it before, there have been glimpses of it and sometimes, YES – your light burns bright! You experience a feeling of usefulness and purpose. Yet, you think hmm... - I just cannot fit into that socket, I have no purpose. – What practical use am I? Then one day for the last and final time someone calls you a turnip – and says ‘turnips have no purpose’ - and you REBEL! Yep! You lose it big time and all of your hidden values come pouring out! You didn’t think you had it in you. People are cheering and saying ‘Way to go!’ Off you go... plug yourself into that socket – and WOW! What light you bring! You show others how to shine too and soon you are burning at 100 watts baby! So, why is a Light Bulb like finding your Purpose? A Light Bulb is useful, A Light Bulb is practical. Finding your purpose is practical because you will influence others and yourself when you feel ‘at purpose’. Let you light shine – find you socket and make the world brighter!

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Irene Anderson

The Accidental Leader

2009-12-19T15:54:00.003-05:00

I was at a gathering of the authors of 'Power of Women United' recently, when our host who brought us all together called herself an 'accidental leader'. My immediate reaction was 'no your are not'! There no accident here... You see, Shirley (Chapter 20) had a vision – the vision was to bring everyone together to celebrate our book reaching the Canadian Best Sellers list. Shirley has another vision – to be on the Oprah Winfrey Show with all of the authors of the book in attendance. This girl thinks big!

We have talked about this goal since the before the book was published, and I bet some of us thought privately that it was noble, but perhaps unattainable dream – not Shirley!

We are a collection of 22 women authors - all with dreams and ambitions – all pursuing our own paths – but with a single vision, to share our stories – to help empower women in every corner of the globe. We want for others what our wisdom and experience have taught us – to be brave in the face of adversity, to get up when you fall, to act every day like the success you dream to be.

So, what about this 'accidental leader'? In my opinion there is no such thing. There are many theories about what constitutes a leader – some say you need Charisma – I say bunk! Some say you are born to it – also bunk! Leadership like any other skill is a learned behaviour. Every time you step up to something, every time you take responsibility for your own actions - you are being a leader. Being a mother is being a leader – you show your children by example how to behave in the world. Leadership is not just for people in politics or corporations.

Where does Leadership begin? It's an inside job! it begins with taking responsibility for every word and action - it begins with having a deep regard and respect for your fellow human beings – and it begins with guts to face up to a challenge and take it on. Leadership is also about taking risks – doing what others will not do – that can feel scary sometimes, but the payoff can be huge.

Does a leader need followers? No – a leader needs a vision a purpose and a plan – and the commitment to help others see where she is headed. I stand side by side – arm in arm with this 'Accidental Leader' on our journey to empower all women no matter where they are or what their circumstance. Won't you join us on this journey? See you in Chicago! Oprah - here we come!

When I am an Old Woman... by Jenny Joseph

2009-12-18T11:17:00.002-05:00

Warning - by Jenny Joseph

When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple

With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.

And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves

And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter.

I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired

And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells

And run my stick along the public railings

And make up for the sobriety of my youth.

I shall go out in my slippers in the rain

And pick the flowers in other peoples' gardens

And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat

And eat three pounds of sausages at a go

Or only bread and pickles for a week

And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry

And pay our rent and not swear in the street

And set a good example for the children.

We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practise a little now?

So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised

When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.

Holiday Shopping for the Four Personality Types

2009-12-18T10:59:00.004-05:00

I know there are some of you who have not yet completed your shopping, and may be completely stumped about what to give your loved ones. Here's some great advice – make it all about them! Really watching and listening to the person you are buying for and making the gift something that is meaningful for them. We tend to choose gifts that we think may be meaningful to others – hence the new tradition of 're-gifting'. Each of the four personality styles has preferences. Check out the FUN tips below for giving the right gift.

Our very knowledgeable Green Personality Style will love any gift that furthers their knowledge and competence. Greens are not into possessions or 'things'. Avoid fluffy slippers, kitschy Christmas sweaters and gaudy jewellery. Knick knacks will find themselves in the next garage sale. Greens have a unique sense of humour, so tickets to a comedy show would work, as would a trip to an interesting place with lots of history. A magazine subscription to something that interests them, such as science, nature, how to go 'green'. Avoid packaging; it's likely that our Greens are totally serious about going 'Green'. Greens love ideas and concepts, a trip to the museum would be most welcome.

The core need for our Gold Personality Style is belonging, tradition and responsibility. Think about practicality and how the gift will help the Gold personality type carry out their responsibilities or honour a family tradition. Do not be extravagant and ensure that the gift is of high quality they love trusted brand names. Some gift ideas - a planner for the New Year, a new briefcase to replace the old worn one, a labeller - Golds are very organized, or an alarm clock to ensure that the Gold is always on time. Gold personality types will appreciate that you put some thought behind the gift. As long as you are happy they are happy.

Woo Hoo! The Orange Personality Style is motivated by freedom and impact. Don't fence me in! Just like Tigger - Oranges bounce. Orange Personality types are all about the senses. Think about gifts that relate to the senses, perfume, music, art work, fine wine or chocolate, a soft sweater. Oranges also like variety and fun, so look for something they can use in their leisure time. Plan a spa day and go with them - make sure there is lots of variety and choice. How about an adventure weekend like white water rafting or horseback riding? Even if you get it wrong, oranges won't care, they get over it easily - they'll just bounce back.

Meaning and Significance - that's the key to a Blue Personality Style's heart. The Blue temperament has a core need for unique identity, meaning and significance. Their talents are as caregivers, facilitators and mentors. They value harmony and cooperation. People of the blue temperament will not really care about material things. You will really impress a blue if you wrote a poem about them, or, knit something special for them (even if it does look a bit wonky). Blues are often found in the Self Help section of the book store - careful though - they may already have all of them! Try a wall plaque that has a motivational saying, or a day out that pampers them, blues so often are caring for others. No matter what you give a blue, it will be treasured and appreciated. Blues are relationship centred; any gift that treasures your relationship with them will be welcomed.

What Personality Type is Santa Claus?

2009-11-28T13:45:00.001-05:00

Got your attention didn't I? If I were to guess what the Jolly Old Elf’s Type is I would say, INFJ. His NF makes him a blue temperament, meaning that his core needs are 'meaning and significance', and 'unique Identity'. Boy I'll say he's unique! – He’s the only person who can do what he does... He also gave Rudolf a special job because the other reindeer were picking on him – Typical Blue! Santa's I means that he's an Introvert he does spend 364 days at the North Pole! Introverts take their energy from inside – think of all the time he spends watching everyone. “You better watch out – you better not cry- you better not pout – I’m telling you why” – he even sees you when you’re sleeping! Santa's J means that he can be very organized. (Once a year he makes a list and checks it twice! He finds out who’s naughty and nice) His J will make him want to punish you with a lump of coal if you are ‘naughty’ – but since he is a Blue temperament – you will get a gift. Fellow type practitioners, what do you think? This is all for fun! Next Post – the Four Temperaments... what to buy for Christmas.

Is Your Cheese Old?

2009-11-25T21:20:00.001-05:00

The parable in the little book "Who Moved My Cheese" is all about how we react to change - or don't react to it - and what the consequences can be.

"Old Beliefs Do Not Lead You to New Cheese"

Does everything you do turn out the way you planned? Not likely... You can spend countless hours and money marketing and networking and maybe things are not percolating along the way you want. Ask yourself - am I making the same assumptions, am I doing the same things? or - am I sourcing out new cheese?

"Having Cheese Makes You Happy"

Of course it does - we all want success, we deserve it right? We worked hard! What happens when the cheese is gone? We ask - how did that happen? It's not fair! We tend to blame.

"The Quicker You Let Go Of Old Cheese, The Sooner You Find New Cheese."

Move on...that's right - get on with the adventure - step out of your comfort zone. When I try a new service or workshop out - sometimes it doesn't fly - so, I go back - turn it on its head and re-think. Usually, I end up on a completely different path from the one I intended, but that's OK - keep your eyes and ears open for new adventures, partnerships and opportunities. It will all work out.

"Move With The Cheese And Enjoy It!"

Sniff - out the situation and see change coming.
Scurry - get into and stay in action immediately.
Hem - don't be Hem - staying where you are will not work.
Haw - Haw did not believe in himself and followed Hem. Step out of your fear - be bold.

I hope this little parable will help you to Sniff and Scurry your way to success.

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I Don't Wanna Grow Up!

2009-11-16T11:39:00.001-05:00

What do I want to be when I grow up? I would be willing to bet that if you are over 50 you had not thought to ask yourself that question. Yet many Baby Boomers are finding themselves looking around for a second career. Canada has the biggest population of Boomers on the planet, many who have spent years in the corporate world with not a lot to show for their loyalty. Many are finding themselves with no pension, or an inadequate one.

Add to that the current financial situation, many cannot touch investments. So a second career for many is a necessity.

Boomers also for the most part are not ready to retire. No longer are they retiring from a job, but retiring to something else. So, where do you start? For most of us, we have adapted ourselves to the corporate world, and may have forgotten what we were really passionate about. Especially for women, with many roles - we look ahead and ask the question - who am I really?

Understanding your personality type can help you discover what activities or second career might fit you.

The Blue temperament type has a core need for meaning and significance and having a purpose in life. If there is no need for a second income, Blues will enjoy being involved with charity organizations, or painting, gardening, scrapbooking. For a second career consider, motivational speaking, coaching or consulting.

The Gold temperament type has a core need for belonging and duty. This type will likely have their finances in place. Golds will enjoy being involved with clubs, volunteer work where they will enjoy planning and organizing events. A second career for a Gold may be doing tax returns, bookkeeping, and accounting, helping others to organize their homes or offices.

The Orange temperament type has a core need for freedom and making an impact. If there is no need for an income, Oranges will enjoy playing a musical instrument, playing golf or pursue other outdoor pursuits. A second career for an Orange could be, motivational speaking, building furniture, adventure travelling and journalism.

The Green temperament type has core need for knowledge and competence. If no substitute income is required Greens will pursue intellectual pursuits, many may return to University or college just for the opportunity to learn. If work is a requirement consider consulting in the field that you are an expert in. Teach at a college, many will hire subject matter experts.

No matter what your personality type, explore the many options available to you - find the real you - the authentic you and work at or volunteer for something that gives you joy or passion. Boomers are living longer - you may as well have some fun!

Please... Don't Sell me Things!!

2009-10-20T09:47:00.002-04:00

Please don't sell people on your product or service - sell them on what it can do for them, in other words what are the benefits? Let them ask about the features.

What turns you off as a buyer? I know what turns me off - people who are pushy and tell you that you really must have their widget, product or service. PLEASE! Cut it out... it does not work - you'll have people running for the hills! Here are some tips that apply to Personality Types, but in general whatever you are selling, make it about the client and what your product or service can do for them.

Don't sell me clothes! - If my Personality Style is Gold, tell me about how it will last, is it suitable for a business meeting. If I am Orange, tell about what a great impact I will make at the next PTA meeting.

Don't sell me a house! - If my Personality Style is Blue, sell me comfort, will my children or spouse like it - can I have friends over and have dinner parties and bar-b-ques? If I am a Green personality style - what's the carbon footprint, can I plant over the lawn? Is there room for my large collection of books?

This is just a taste of what psychology makes people buy, essentially, they will buy from YOU, and how you brand YOU. Sell your client on responsibility and belonging (GOLD), authenticity and people (BLUE), knowledge and competence (GREEN) and freedom and Impact (ORANGE).

How will you know their Style in person or over the 'phone - you won't, you will have to listen for clues and cues that tell you who you are dealing with.

Sell a solution to the client's immediate need or problem, and watch your sales numbers rise. Good luck on your journey to success!

Irene Anderson
Personal Leadership Coach

Making Sausages - The Big Shiny Dream

2009-09-19T10:15:00.007-04:00

I am a real believer that your dreams give you real clues to what messages your brain is giving you – good or bad. I find that in times of stress (even when I don’t think I am stressed) I dream a lot – vivid involved dreams that are giving me clues about what to do next, what path to take.
I had a dream the other night that I started another business, making sausages – Wow! What a stretch that would be – for me uncharted territory!

Now, I love to cook – but making sausages from scratch is just not something I would do. In my dream, which was vivid and in full technicolour – I was involved in the process from start to finish (except the slaughter part – ick) – although the details were sketchy, I could visualize the process and saw and touched the end result – four beautiful organic sausages in a shiny, colourful plastic package. A work of Art!

And then I woke up – before I had to market and sell the product – thank goodness!

So what were the clues in this dream that could help me in my business? I know I had been struggling with focus and doing only one thing and doing it well. Not only that, I was getting myself involved in projects that were not necessarily serving my business. I believe the dream was telling me to re-focus, do what I am great at, and not get sidetracked with ‘shiny packaging’ or new ventures that, yes I could do well in but are not necessarily what my purpose is.

Our dreams can help us to focus on what’s really important, if you wake up after such a dream – try to write down what the dream was and later – ask yourself – what is my unconscious mind trying to tell me? This dream was telling me, align your goals and projects with your values (I love sausages, but I value human growth and potential more) – be focussed about your business – you cannot do it all. Although I encourage other women to tap into their super powers (best strengths), I can also share that we are only Superwoman when we are focussed on our strengths.

Hmm, I think I smell breakfast cooking...

I recommend “The Power of Focus”, by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Les Hewitt

A Favourite of Mine -Winnie The Pooh on Success

2009-05-24T11:10:00.003-04:00

Success does not come without planning, I love this take on goal setting from one of my favourite books.

Adapted from “Winnie the Pooh on Success” - Allen&Allen

Chinese Proverb – ‘There are many paths to the top of the mountain, but the view is always the same.”

Creating your Vision

Select a Dream
Use your dream to set a goal.
Create a Plan.
Consider resources.
Enhance Skills Abilities
Spend Time Wisely.
Start! – Get Organized and Go.

Goal Setting

All of us have Possibility power.
Choose your goals carefully – you are going to achieve them.
Have both long and short term goals. As you accomplish them, add new ones.
Imagine accomplishing really ambitious goals. – Reward yourself.
Engendering success requires concrete goals – be specific.
Value your long term goals; don’t get sidetracked by only working on short term goals.
Eliminate conflict between goals – harmonize and prioritize.

Create a Plan!
A list of things to do…

What has to be done
Who will do it?
When will it get done?

PRIORITIZE!

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Power Of Women United Book release

2009-05-22T15:36:00.003-04:00

Power of Women United Book Launch June 17th 6:30 pm McNally Rand Don Mills, Toronto - Huge Networking Event -

The Power of Women United is a stunning presentation of
the hard lessons learned by women who have met the challenges
of life and succeeded. Each chapter is authored by a woman who
has traveled her own road and overcome unique struggles in her quest
to live a fulfilled and satisfying life. In their own words these women
project the emotional strength and wisdom they have gained, and shine
as beacons of light for those women searching for answers and their
own truth.
The diversity of situations presented touches the heart of every
reader and conveys the idea that they can be successful no matter their
past or current situation. Each author has stepped out of the shadow and
entered the business and entrepreneurial world and though they have
experienced different journeys, they have learned lessons that will give
strength and courage to those who dare to achieve their dreams.
The offering of personal knowledge gained from experience gives
the new and seasoned entrepreneur alike, confidence that the concepts
conveyed are of the utmost importance. These include specific ideas to
grow your business as well as motivational encouragement to help deal
with the fear that can keep you from excelling.
As women, we trust the wisdom of those who have gone before
us and dealt with the problems of balancing work and home life. Though
many are convinced that you can’t have it all, these women have proven
that not only can you succeed, you deserve to grasp the opportunity to
live your dream. The Power of Women United is the ultimate tool to begin
your own personal growth journey to be the woman you choose to be.

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“ I ain’t in a Slump – I’m just not Hitting!”

2009-05-04T20:39:00.003-04:00

One of my favourites, Yogi had a way of saying things that hit the nail on the head - in a funny kind of way. I would be willing to bet that every entrepreneur or self employed person has at least once a week - that nagging doubt - that voice that says "Am I doing the right thing?" Not just self employed people either - people in the corporate world especially in today's economy may not feel comfortable - with a proverbial axe over their heads. My day is Thursday - for some reason that's the day my gremlin shows up. It shows up as a nagging unease in the gut, and can if I let it stop me from getting up in the morning. So how do we stop this little guy or gal gremlin in it's tracks? Face up to him or her, acknowledge his or her existence and try to understand what message s/he is giving you - thank him/her for their input - say " Thanks for the advice" - and get moving. Just keep moving - do something - action works. If you are sitting at your desk and stumped for an idea, take a walk! Change the scenery. Self doubt is a real killer, it can kill your business and your confidence. Keep telling yourself how great you are - I mean it - it works! Believing in yourself is key to moving forward, if you don't believe in yourself no-one else will. As Yogi says "That's how I kept myself positive, by not getting all Negative." Ah - what great words of wisdom! Keep positive - your slump will disappear - keep believing in yourself. You are FANTASTIC!

Hitting The Wall

2009-04-24T11:40:00.007-04:00

I just listened to a podcast about transition and 'Hitting the Wall' - wow in that less than 2 minute blurb, a million thoughts started to go through my head. On another call last night my coach said “transition is ubiquitous’ – in other words life is always throwing stuff at us that pushes us into transition - nothing is static or same especially in these challenging times. I don’t know about you, but almost every friend or acquaintance I have has been touched by layoffs, downsizing, bankruptcy or just plain bad bosses, they now find themselves in middle age having to look for alternate employment - and in many cases settle for what we used to call McJobs.

A friend shared with me last night the plight of a group of long term employees who just heard that they have lost their jobs. Many have worked at this firm for over 25 years- that’s a lifetime with friends who have become family – that’s hard to give up, what a crushing blow. Many were escorted out of the building by security guards – how humiliating! I know how heartbroken they felt. I myself remember a similar closure at the same company where one of my team - a woman with over 25 years at this company left with her belongings in a green garbage bag. I will never forget that image; I will never forget the tears and the heartbreak.

What does this do for your confidence? Many will go through the normal stages of grief:

Denial – This didn’t happen - I can’t believe it!
Anger - It’s not fair – why me?
Bargaining – What if I can change this? Get my job back?
Depression – There may be lots of time on the couch in front of the TV
Acceptance – This is the stage where you finally realize that you cannot change the situation and this is where you will find the momentum to move on.

Many people ‘Hit the wall’ and never get back up. Over our many years of experience we collect so much training and wisdom, only to end up being marginalized or thought of as ‘past our Sell by Date’. What a shame, that our society sees wisdom and experience as ‘past it’. I myself have hit that wall on many occasions, and even now – hit the wall occasionally. So how do you manage to get up – brush yourself off and keep going?

The first step is taking back your confidence, learning and knowing that you are worthy and that you have an amazing gift to give the world. Every human being has this gift inside. The good news is that there is a road back – there is help along the way. The trick is to keep believing in yourself, even if you can only do it for one day a week, after a while, you will find yourself doing it more often. For me, coaching does it for me, whether it is one on one or in a group setting – talking things through with someone really helps.

So, what’s your wall?

- Lost your job?
- Stuck for a new idea?
- Business in a slump?
- In trouble at work?
- Single Mom struggling with bills?
- Stay at home mom feeling isolated?

Inside this gift of TRANSITION, there is an opportunity just waiting to be uncovered. It is a new beginning waiting to be unwrapped, with a voyage of adventure and challenge on the other side.

Accept your gift – it’s yours for the taking!

Who's sailing with you on your journey?

2009-04-23T16:38:00.003-04:00

My mother always told me to watch the company I kept – of course what did she know? Seems she knew quite a lot. Whether we like it or not we are influenced by the people we hang around with, and others judge us by the company we keep.
There is an old exercise that has you choose who you would have in your lifeboat if you were cast adrift, your compass out of whack – your oars overboard. This is such a useful exercise to use when you are at your lowest ebb (pardon the pun) and need to draw upon the people who most influence and support you in a positive way.
This is a great journal exercise – come back to it again and again to see if you choose the same people – you must choose 9 people – here are the rules:

First, the people you select to accompany you in your lifeboat must be individuals you really want to be there. Adding family members because you think you should, could sink your boat.
Second, the nine people chosen can be alive or dead, however you must have known them personally – William Shakespeare doesn’t count – come on… no way you could have known him!

Make your list of people who you really count on:
- Who is there with a shoulder to cry on?
- Who helps you out when you are too sick to drive the kids to school?
- Who congratulates you on the terrific job you are doing?
- Who tells you like it is when you are being self indulgent?
- Who looks for opportunities to help you build your business or career?

You get the picture – come back to this list every time you need to know who your loyal fans are, who gets you – who you can count on.
Have some fun with this, draw pictures, write a story about how you finally survive. Bon Voyage! May the Winds speed you on your journey!

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Yes, a coach is available 24/7!

2009-04-23T15:54:00.005-04:00

G.R.O.W

Ever feel that if you had a coach at your disposal 24/7 that you could accomplish so much more in your life? Well, you do - and it's you! Yes, you can benefit from some very simple methods to get your off the couch - outta your funk and into ACTION! Use the G.R.O.W model to get you going...

G - What is your goal? Even if it's a goal you have for the day - write it down, ask yourself these questions:
- How will I know that I have achieved the goal?
- What specific actions can I take to achieve the goal?

R - What is my current reality? What if anything is preventing me from reaching my goal? Questions to ask yourself:

- What am I doing now?
- What is the result of that?

O - Explore your options - brainstorm with yourself, make lists of ideas. Ask Yourself?

- What else can I do?
- What of this or that constraint were removed?
- What are the benefits of each option?

W - The way forward, or the will to move ahead. Make a commitment to yourself, ask yourself:

- What will I do and by when?
- How will this option help me to succeed?
- What else will I commit to do to reach my goal.

Simple, but it works - I challenge you to try it and share your results with me. or..

contact me for a sample coaching session..

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